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Gems for living a life of wellness.  Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

The old saying “Shit Happens” is appropriate for this gem:  Accept what has happened in your life and just get on with things.

Maybe your parents didn’t love you enough, someone didn’t finish a relationship with you the right way, or someone wronged you at a job.  They didn’t do it because they wanted to do it that way, but because they didn’t know any different.

If you want to, you can let go of any feelings of resentment, of regret, or anger.  You can think of yourself as a fabulous human being because of all the bad things that have happened to you.  Try not to use labels such as “good” and “bad.”  Yes, I am aware that some of it is indeed bad, but it is how we let it affect us that is the real “bad.”

goodbad on justruminating men's blogI had a seriously dysfunctional childhood and for a long time I was resentful.  I blamed my upbringing for all the messed up things I was doing.  It’s so easy to do.  But once I accepted that what was done was done, and that I could choose to forgive and get on with  my life, things improved enormously.  And I am glad I made peace with my mother, for she died about 1 year after I let it all go.

Just remember, even if you could get in front of you all the people who had “done you wrong,” there would still be nothing they could do.  You could shout at them, berate them, rant at them, but there would be nothing they could do to make amends or put things right.  They too would have to accept that what’s done is done.  There is no going back, only forward.  Make it a motto for life–keep moving forward.

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